Tuesday, 31 May 2016

From the Ordinary to the Extraordinary

As I get closer and closer to my due date - one more week exactly left, I am left thinking about how life will change soon. Someone wrote a few months ago on a blog (or was it a book? I forget) that I read about how ordinary, or common activities can be made extraordinary.

A number of activities that I can think of are:
-Making meals
-Cleaning the house
-Driving my car
-Having silly conversations with my 2 year old
-Growing a baby

All of these sound pretty tedious, if not boring. I beg to differ. In my opinion, doing laundry means that I have a reminder that I'm able to clothe my family. Making meals means there's enough food (and money) in the house to keep us healthy. Growing a baby is common, women have been doing this for thousands of years, but yet it's a very deep, profound experience.

Given that, I also feel my hearing loss is an ordinary event. Millions of people in the world suffer from some form of hearing loss - mild to moderate to severe to profound. I choose to take on the extraordinary perspective that my hearing loss has made me a more efficient communicator with the rest of the world. It has helped me see the world from a different lens (though I would not wish hearing loss on anyone else if necessary!). Anyone who knows me personally knows that I prefer to communicate via the spoken word. While I don't have anything against other modes of communication, I just prefer actually talking for myself than having someone talk for me.

On the plus side, it's pretty cool to have verbal conversations with my toddler, who I swear is becoming into a threenager. Having a child with normal hearing has made me an advocate for strong language acquisition in the early years - reading books, listening to music, etc. Since she knows that I have a hearing loss and often mishear stuff, she has developed a 'politically incorrect' personality - correcting me whenever possible. 

Priceless conversation pieces include:

-Her grandparents' (my mom and dad) home is not a 'house', it is a 'condo'.
-"The baby's name is Mortimer, or something else." (otherwise, she'll just say that we'll find out the baby's name when the baby arrives)
-"Let me think" (fingers pointing at me)
-"Mommy, I will have boobies one day and be able to feed babies" Obviously she's been listening in on my breastfeeding plans.
-"Do you remember the names of the animals from Madagascar?"  This is every day at breakfast.
- *she even sings to Johnny Cash - the following is her favorite part from I walk the line* 

"I find it very, very easy to be true
I find myself alone when each day is through
Yes, I'll admit that I'm a fool for you
Because you're mine, I walk the line"

All this, and more is why I value being part of the auditory world, even though it's not perfect from my end. For most 'hearing' people, this is a normal, everyday occurrence. But for the hard of hearing mommy, it's a source of great joy to be able to participate fully in my daughter's life.


  1. Rachel's language acquisition is amazing! Missing you guys. Can't wait to see the new little one.

    1. We are looking forward to the new little one too! :)